If you read one article today make it this one by the inspirational Alfie Kohn.
‘The studies found that both positive and negative conditional parenting were harmful, but in slightly different ways. The positive kind sometimes succeeded in getting children to work harder on academic tasks, but at the cost of unhealthy feelings of “internal compulsion.” Negative conditional parenting, meanwhile, didn’t even work in the short run; it just increased the teenagers’ negative feelings about their parents.’
If you are serious about supporting your child’s long-term mental health, regulation and well-being then you have to open your mind and explore the most up to date research and evidence.
It’s hard when we’ve been conditioned for so long to be conditional, but imagine what the world would be like if we’d ignored new research and evidence in other fields.
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